Hesitating to Answer?

I believe that if some one is hesitating to answer any question(s), then he does give away the negative response to that person. Even thou he wanted to answer by all means but then if he doesn’t speak up at the moment when the question is asked and if he keeps himself busy in doing other things then no matter if he was going to give positive response; He will eventually will be judged wrong.

I am not making any assumption in here because that has happens to me more often now and i am still not learning from it which is sad indeed very sad. So, here some one asked me very politely, “Do you want to marry with a Girl who wears Dastar”, I hesitated little a bit to answer the question because there were 2 reasons. Firstly my mom was sitting there and secondly the question came to me all of a sudden and I was like in a shock for few seconds. At the same time I was doing something else and I had to finish the work I was doing. I knew my answer would have been, “Yes, I don’t have any problem”, If the Girl is nice and has family values then why not”. If she’s beautiful inside out then why not; If we think alike then why not; if she can educate me spiritually then why not. As I was thinking all that I had to get back to my work without answering and then the in few seconds Topic was changed. Since then I have been feeling a guilty that damn! I should have answered without any hesitation because by not saying anything I gave an idea that “No, he is not going to marry a girl who wear Dastar because he doesn’t like it”.

Damn! I don’t know what to doL. I guess next time I will try to learn hopefully.